3 Tips You Need To Know Before Touching Her ‘Downstairs’

By on May 9, 2012

3 Tips You Need To Know Before Touching Her ‘Downstairs’

Did you know that women get very little stimulation through penetration alone? Yep, the path to orgasm looks very different for a woman than it does for a man.

It is infinitely easier for a man to cum than a woman. However, a woman can cum exponentially more times than a man can. That is, when she can cum at all. A lot of women can only achieve climax through self stimulation. However, the quality of her orgasm tends to be better when she has a loving partner.

You need to learn the correct way to get those orgasms flowing. Here are a few things to keep in mind when you’re touching her downstairs.

Direct vs. Indirect
How you make contact with the clitoris is very important to her orgasm. Before she is properly turned on, direct clitoral contact can feel quite irritating to a woman. It is best to start with indirect contact. Run your fingers along either side of the clit’s shaft. Tap the clitoral hood. However you move around, do not go for direct stimulation until she is good and ready for you. Once her breathing is heavy, and you can feel the throb below, then you can move to the sweet spot to send her over the edge.

Rhythm vs. Speed
An incredibly important distinction to make is the rhythm of your touch versus the speed of your touch. A lot of men think they are the same thing, but they are not. Speed may vary, but rhythm should not. Most women like to start with slow, easy caresses, but they invariably increase speed the closer they become to achieving orgasm. However, they still maintain the same rhythm with which they started. It’s their “beat,” if you will. So no matter how much you increase the speed of your caresses, maintain a consistent flow to the activity.

Thrust vs. Grind
There are very few nerve endings in the walls of the vagina. Sending her into blissful orgasms simply by sticking your penis in her is a long shot. No matter how hard you rail her, you will not get her off. However, that doesn’t mean that she is completely incapable of climaxing while you are inside her if you do it right. Instead of a poke, try a grinding motion. It will allow your pubic bone to make contact with her clitoris, which will give her the stimulation she needs to reach orgasm.

It’s why so many women report the woman-on-top position as their favorite. They can control the action, so they’re able to get that clitoral stimulation by rocking their hips forward to allow contact with the head of the clit.

Most men like it when their woman rides them. It provides great visual stimulation, and you penetrate very deeply. Also, check out Michael Webb’s book here. Best thing I’ve come across on the subject…

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About Jessica Johnson

Allow me to introduce myself. My name is Jessica Johnson. I’m not a porn star, paid actress, or model. I’m simply a woman who knows exactly what games women play with men because I’ve seen and experienced them all… in fact, I’ve been involved in most of them in one way or another myself.


  1. Alister

    July 11, 2012 at 10:50 am

    Very good and also informative Thank you.

  2. Michael

    July 11, 2012 at 10:51 am

    Thanks, Jessica,
    I always appreciate your tips, since I really get a lot of pleasure by truly pleasing a lady…
    Who knows better than a lady with experience on how to make her CUM multiple times!
    C’mon, wake up guys!.. ;~))

    • Jessica Johnson

      July 11, 2012 at 11:11 am

      Thanks Michael! That means a lot! Stay tuned in the next few weeks. I have a book coming out with MANY more great tips.

  3. Al

    July 11, 2012 at 10:51 am

    Excellent tips.

  4. Erwin

    July 11, 2012 at 8:42 pm

    My girlfriend also likes to be on top. I do not mind as long as we both enjoy. She takes time to reach climax and now I know the little secret to turn her on. every girl is different and guys have to be creative to help their partners achieve orgasm.

    • Jessica Johnson

      July 12, 2012 at 8:38 am

      I’m glad to hear it helped you out!


  5. Joseph

    July 11, 2012 at 9:05 pm

    The touch really matters. It has to be sensuous and come at the right time. otherwise, it is difficult for a woman to get stimulated. Moreover, for women, sex is more about feeling rather than visual. And so guys have to get the act right to excite her and reach orgasm.

  6. Arthur

    July 12, 2012 at 1:15 am

    Guys should talk to their partners about their sexual fantasies. Women take time to open up but they can be very candid too. A loving partner can get her the best orgasms with love and right sexual stimulation.

    • Jessica Johnson

      July 12, 2012 at 8:33 am

      Yes! You said it perfectly. A lot of women need to feel comfortable around men before they can tell them what they want. Be patient with women and it will pay off in the end.


  7. Brendon

    July 13, 2012 at 8:28 am

    Thanks for describing everything in detail. I never knew so much about orgasms… I think I should go through the tutorial. I can surprise my girlfriend after that. haha

  8. Daryll

    July 17, 2012 at 8:35 pm

    My girlfriend never cums easily. I thought she had some problem. We had fights over it. until I found out all about this stimulation and other stuff. Things are better now.

    • Jessica Johnson

      July 18, 2012 at 12:25 pm

      Awesome! Glad to hear…


  9. Davidson

    July 17, 2012 at 10:26 pm

    U r great. Thanks for all the info. I was lookin for something like this. I hope I will put up a better show now.  keep up the good job.

    • Jessica Johnson

      July 18, 2012 at 12:25 pm

      Thank you so much for your feedback! I hope you find what you need here. If not, please email me and I’ll try to include something you’re looking for.


  10. James

    July 18, 2012 at 1:13 pm

    Thank you, Jessica.. Helping a woman achieve orgasm is a very humbling and deep experience for me. It borders on sacred. In what ways can I help her reach more orgasms beyond the first one without disturbing her initial euphoria from the first. I know her clitoris is extremely sensitive at the time of orgasm and particularly afterward. I want to know how to continue that experience for her without causing her any discomfort or distraction.

    Thank you for your advice and wisdom, Jessica.


    • Jessica Johnson

      July 20, 2012 at 12:06 pm

      James, thank you so much for your post. I’m glad you were able to move past your fear. If you continue to practice with techniques that I share, I promise it will get more comfortable. Good luck to you!


  11. gordon

    July 19, 2012 at 6:37 am

    It needs hard work to arouse a woman. but it is worth the effort. Most of them need more time and foreplay which men are unwilling to give. You better learn the rules first.

  12. Mac

    July 19, 2012 at 8:44 pm

    Thanks for the tips. My girlfriend always complains that she is not satisfied enough. Now I know it. I will def work on these tips.

  13. Dim

    July 20, 2012 at 1:49 am

    It is imp to make a woman want more of it through caresses and foreplay. You need to be slow in the beginning. Once she is aroused, you can pick up the speed. Give her what she likes and you will get wat you want.

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